Tuesday, 23 December 2008

  • Educational Options: What do YOU think?

    Come January, I will very likely have 2 children in public school, 1 child in Christian private school and 4 who are homeschooling.  I am in a bit of a quandry as to how I want to proceed for the 2009-2010 school year.  Our experiences with all 3 options have at times been positive and at times negative.  Please answer the following questions with insights concerning pros and cons of each option.  Try to be open minded and not just "push" YOUR way or opinion. 

    What do you see as the pros and cons of:

    Public School?

    Private School?

    Homeschool?

    I hope to get some really valuable input on this topic.

    Thanks!

Comments (55)

  • kriegerwulff

    @Kristenmomof3 - Far from being a legitimate reductio, your final claim doesn't actually deal with the ethical question raised. Do I want to have my children abducted by the State? No. (I've been through that system too, so I know exactly what I'm talking about) There are wise ways to go about it, and unwise ways...but if the State says that you cannot preach the gospel without a license, or you go to jail, are you going to comply? If so, you stand at odds with the testimony of hundreds of saints through the history of the church. The same principle applies here...the charge of educating one's children was given to the parents by God, do you disagree?

    Christ answered this train of thought precisely when he said in St Matthew X:28 "And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the
    soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body
    in hell." Yea, Christ also said in the same record of St Matthew X:16 "Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves." We can answer with Luther, "Here I stand; I can do no other. God help me. Amen."

    Deal with the question as it pertains to the eternal objective standard, and then if adherence to the eternal objective standard places us at odds with mammon, we can tell ourselves that "no man can serve two masters" and that our charge is clear.

  • Kristenmomof3

    @kriegerwulff - The thing is though, you said that you would tell people who are not allowed by the state to homeschool, to homeschool anyway. Doing that would cause that persons children to be taken by the state.

  • hbasedmomof6

    @kriegerwulff - Can you offer Scripture which substantiates the idea that a parent should never allow other teachers to teach their child?  I mean, would you say it is even wrong to let them go to Sunday School where someone besides the parent is teaching them?

  • kriegerwulff

    @Kristenmomof3 - No, read what I said...Scripture tells people to educate their children, not by authority of myself to I assert this. If Scripture does indeed teach and command this, you cannot but conclude that, regardless of what man commands, we are to obey God rather than men.

    So, now, does Scripture command parents to educate their children?

  • Kristenmomof3

    @kriegerwulff - can you provide scripture for your opinion please?

  • rosyward

    I will comment based on my experience in Sapulpa, where you live.  :>   I was homeschooled and personally I agree with your friend kriegerwulff.  I always had the desire to homeschool but for the first few years it just wasn't possible.  My girls went to Sapulpa public elementary school.  I was very involved; picked their teachers, pulled them out for the day when I knew they were having "sex" talks or other counseling sessions I didn't agree with.  They were always at the top of their class, popular, teachers loved them, good kids with good attitudes so I believed I was doing the right thing for the time.  When middle school time hit we made the decision to homeschool.  I had heard of all the bad stuff going on and my DH finally realized it would be the best thing to at least homeschool for a couple of years.  After the first year of homeschooling I realized that putting them in public school had been a mistake from the beginning.  It took me almost 2 years of de-brainwashing them (and I still fight it) to get them to realize that education isn't just for "school" but is a lifelong thing.  They had a bad attitude about learning - like it was boring and work.  I really want my children to understand that learning is something you do everyday in order to grow.  We would have been so much further ahead if only I had homeschooled from the beginning.  Public school put them in a box.  

    As far as private school, my younger daughter has played sports with one of the small private schools in town.  The experience was great and she made a lot of friends but... it was all about the social scene, the cell phones, who is dating who, etc...  Things that usually just aren't that important yet in my daughters lives.  And they use some of the same curriculum I do.  I thought why pay $4000 and up when I can do the job better for so much less.  If I ever had to I would probably pick this school but I don't really think the education there would be all that much more superior to public school just cleaner maybe.  
    We have friends that public school but it seems that these students spend most of their days fighting peer pressure and dealing with the social scene and very little time learning anything.
     I also agree that there are many homeschoolers that are bringing the good name of homeschooling down by pulling their kids out then not giving them a superior education.  It is not good enough to be as good as the public school we must be superior in every way.  To prove ourselves, because believe me (from experience) people will be watching us.
    Here is an example from my own life.  I started college at 16 and my brother at 15 - we were ready, we did good, blah, blah, blah.  My little sister though fought it every step of the way.  My dad (our teacher) and her did not rub on well together.  At age 14 he gave up.  But he was so totally against Public schools that he didnt' re-enroll her.  For years she had lousy self-esteem and had a rough life.  Several years ago she finally got up the nerve to take the GED.  Passed with flying colors.  Then she went to TCC and has had straight A's.  Turns out the education she got by the age of 14 was superior to most of the public school kids education through graduation.  She said there are high school graduates in her classes that surprise even her with their stupidity.  That story does not excuse my dad in any way but... it gives hope to those that homeschool but don't feel like they are teaching enough.  Just providing the environment for independent learning  is a major step in the right direction.
  • Kristenmomof3

    @kriegerwulff - many use Duet 6:5-9 to mandate homeschooling.

    The Jews didn't take it to mean this at all. To make it mean this is to twist scripture.

    The Jews did not understand this passage as a mandate to home school. Alfred Edersheim, in Sketches of Jewish Social Life in the Days of Christ (specifically chapter eight) explains that while children (primarily sons) did receive some education at home (from ages 3 to 5), they were sent to the synagogue for their education starting at age 6 or 7. There they would attend formal classes with the other boys from their community. This Jewish application of Old Testament instruction accords more with today's Christian school model than it does with the contemporary convention of home schooling.

    home schooling is not directly commanded in this passage (or in any other biblical text), it can correctly be identified as a "gray area" or a "wisdom issue"—one in which Christians must make wise decisions based on biblical principles and within God-given parameters. Romans 14–15 gives New Testament believers guidelines for how to think through these types of issues; it also warns Christians not to force their own personal convictions (in gray areas) onto other believers.

    If a "home school interpretation" of Deuteronomy 6 is granted, it is inconsistent to place the primary responsibility for the child's education on the mother (as most home schoolers do)—since as Edersheim notes, "There can be no question that, according to the law of Moses, the early education of a child devolved upon the father"

    Whether the child learns math, history, science, and grammar in a public school setting, a Christian school setting, or a home school setting—it is still the direct responsibility of Christian parents to bring up their children "in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

    This responsibility is not necessarily met just because a child learns math at home. Nor is this responsibility necessarily abdicated when a child attends the public elementary school across the street. In either case, parents must proactively teach their children the things of the Lord, discipling them in the faith throughout the regular activities of everyday life.

  • hbasedmomof6

    @Kristenmomof3 - I do think that it is more likely that kids will yield to negative influences and temptations (like drugs, sexual experimentation, worldly mindset and philosophy) in middle school/high school if they are more likely to be subjected to those influences and they are more likely to be subjected to it if they are at school rather than at home.  I mean, I have 4 kids who are 13, 16, 16 and 18 and so far none of them have gone that direction and none of them have been in public school for junior high/high school.  I mean I see what you mean that if a kid is just hell bent on rebellion, they will rebel regardless.. but environment does play some part I would think?

  • Kristenmomof3

    @kriegerwulff - Matthew 28 tells us to go into all the world and share the Good News of Jesus with the whole world and to disciple them in that way. If all Christians were called to homeschool and we only spend time in those circles with other Christians, how will we ever do as commanded and win others?

    In order to win the non-believer we must spend time with them and that does include schooling. Many an opportunity has been found to reach out to students and families  because of my children's attendance in a public school.

  • kriegerwulff

    @hbasedmomof6 - The question you ask, is extremely common, and is the usual track taken when raising objections to the idea that parents are charged by God to educate their children.

    First, as I quoted previously, I draw attention to Deut. VI:6-7...the command is given to parents to teach their children of God "...when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up." Secondly, the Wise-man said to his son in Prov I:8 "My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother..." he continues in Chapter VI "My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: Bind them continually upon thine heart, [and] tie them about thy neck." So before even getting to your question, we must first establish that God gave the command and charge to parents to educate their children. If anyone contends this, they need to demonstrate from Scripture that this isn't so.

    Your question...you presume much in asking it, and in presuming it, you assume it to hold so in the case of public education. You assume that there is a corrolation between hiring a teacher and government education. You assume that the control one has over the curriculum and teaching WHEN hiring a teacher or tutor for you children, is the same as the government schooling. You assume that the moral character and quantity of the teacher is under your control in government education as in private tutoring.
    Allow me to draw an example to myself, when I taught a class in the homeschool coop. I was required to stand before all the members, give a presentation of what I was going to teach, the syllubus, who I was, what qualified me to teach my subject, what experience I had, a profession of faith, and to answer any questions that might be raised, and then the choice lay with the parents as to whether they thought I could provide instruction for their children in a manner they believed to be fit. This is true, not just of my example, but in any case when one is going to hire a tutor for their children. David said in his 34th Pslam "Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD."

    Further, your corrolation to a "sunday school" falls also short...because the Sunday school is paid for voluntarily by members of the church: no one is ever forced to give money, and if they don't like what is happening, then they are at liberty to not give to the church. Not so with the government schools...government schools are paid for by theft, through taxation...so only by robbing your neighbor through the anonynimity of the state, can your children by educated by the state. It is unjust, and is not a lawful hiring of a tutor for one's children.

    Now, it lies with those who maintain that government school is acceptable to study scripture, to ask the question, and determine whether the charge given them by God is being fulfilled by government schooling. "...Thou shalt teach them when thou sittest in thy house..."

  • hbasedmomof6

    @Kristenmomof3 - I totally agree with that last paragraph.  There are parents who homeschool who are less proactive in Biblical discipleship with their children than those who public school.  As a matter of fact, those who homeschool may get a bit complacent in this area while those who send their kids to school outside the home may feel more of a sense of urgency and conviction about proactive Biblical discipleship and instruction.

  • javamommy

    @Kristenmomof3 - ok i no way is this a i think you should homeschool post but i just wated to let you know a few things.I just went to the homeschool legal defense assoctiation they have all the laws for all the states.First off you're right with the must have highschool diploma but it also says or equvalent.so if you have your GED or wanted to get it you're fine.(and yes i only have my GED because i did the same thing only went to school through the tenth grade)

    I also found nothing in there with having a special ed student having to remain in the public schools.this may have been false inormation given to you.Plus for me(and solely for me)this puts up red flags.This is taking the child away from the parent because the parent isnt good enough to teach a "special" child?or wont seek out the right tools to get help for the child.this urks me as the trust and responibility is being taken away from the parents.(i could write a whole topic on this thought)

    I do see where you have to clock your hours and such.Getting a sgnature to approve your homeschooling is honestly not as scary as it sounds.i just looked up your affadavit and all it says is that you will teach the required subjects that you're clear from any felonies,and that your childrens medical/immunizations are up to date.and the whole convicted thing is only within 5 years.

    again it's not me trying to push i just wanted to open your eyes up to more of the laws.

    a lot of public schools will try to twist the laws around so it seems harder and you need to put more work in it then you really do.I've seen it happen to many friends in many states.Thats why all homeschoolers should be up to date on the laws surrounding your state!!

    again not pushing just sharing what i found

  • Kristenmomof3

    @javamommy - that's fine :)

    I don't have a GED :) just a 10th grade education

  • javamommy

    @Kristenmomof3 - well from someone who has her GED trust me on this the GED is not that hard.I would encourage you even if you never homeschool to try and get it.It gives you a sense of accomplishment you would never imagine.I still look at my GED and smile knowing i took it and did so well in it.

  • Kristenmomof3

    @javamommy - that's ok..it costs over $100. I am perfectly ok with my 10th grade education. Many of my family have only gone through 8th grade

  • hbasedmomof6

    @Kristenmomof3 - @javamommy - Yes and I have also heard people say they did it to show their kids that education was truly important to them. 

    Here is a link to the PA laws:

    http://www.hslda.org/laws/analysis/Pennsylvania.pdf

  • javamommy

    @hbasedmomof6 - believe it or not its my fil NOW that convinced me to get it when i dropped out.(me and boyfriend dated back then) he told me that if i got the GED it would show future employers that i didnt just drop out but i dropped out and DID something as well as finished it.It made a lot of sense.I very proudly tell my kids i have my GED because public school was not a good fit for me.Even though i have some strong feelings aginst it i do not ever bach public school in front of my kids they have experienced both and they can make their own decisions.My 11 year old stepson who was in public till 4th grade tells me at least once a week how happy he is to be at home with all of us

  • hbasedmomof6

    @Kristenmomof3 - Wow.. $100!  Here it is $60.  You are very articulate Kristen, I was just thinking you could probably pass with flying colors ;)  I figure those with an 8th grade education were probably Amish right?  I have no qualms with your decision personally.  I think if you feel comfortable with it, it is great.  :)

  • hbasedmomof6

    @javamommy - Yeah my 13yo stepson was in public school through 4th grade.  He loves homeschooling too.

  • kriegerwulff

    I lost what I was typing. The brief summation is this: appealing to the social life of the Judean people 500-1000 years after God gave them a command, doesn't have anything at all to do with the command itself. Nowhere in Scripture is it ever taught that the Jewish people were extremely faithful, or applied well the teaching of Torah. This would be like me quoting Anselm of Canterbury, or the Venerable Bede, or Gottshalk as being authoritative on what the New Testament authors meant. So citing cultural trends 500-1000 years after God said "...when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up." (Deut XI) is irrelavent to the question.

    "home schooling is not directly commanded in
    this passage (or in any other biblical text), it can correctly be
    identified as a "gray area" or a "wisdom issue""

    Since when is it a gray issue "If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give
    him a stone? or if [he ask] a fish, will he for a fish give him a
    serpent?" But you ask, "what does that passage have to do with the discussion at hand, Krieger?" In this: our children deserve the best we can give them, no? Our children are to be instructed in the Wisdom of the Lord, no? The Wise-man also said "The fear of the LORD [is] the beginning of knowledge" So why, then, would you say that sending your children to an institution that is avowedly anti-God, teaching vain philosophies of men, is a good thing? Why would you give your children the dead stones of worldly wisdom instead of the bread of life? It cannot be said that the education of children is a "gray area"...and it most CERTAINLY cannot be said that the education of Christian children is without moral or ethical standards. Paul warned adults in Col II "Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after
    the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after
    Christ." How much more on guard should we be over the minds of Christian children (who "...now are they holy" I Cor. VII:14 according to the Apostle) over being spoiled through vain doctrines?

    The very comments in this thread only go to demonstrate exactly whereof I speak...considering the sex education, the anti-God view of history, science, math, etc...Scripture does indeed teach us that Parents are to teach their children....is says this verbatium...therefore, it cannot be said that it is a "gray area'

    Furthermore, I happen to agree with you that the Father should be much more involved, both in the planning, directing, and actual teaching of his children than most homeschooling fathers are.

    "This responsibility is not necessarily met
    just because a child learns math at home. Nor is this responsibility
    necessarily abdicated when a child attends the public elementary school
    across the street."

    I recommend you read Gordon H. Clark's "A Christian Philosophy of Education" as dealing precisely with the difference here. Clark wrote his book in the 1940s, and it gives a picture of how philosophies and teaching heavily influence the message being taught. I also recommend "Mathematics: Is God Silent?" as a explaination of why teaching something as simple as math, if done without a foundation of God, is going to yield defective results.

    Solomon said "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge"...government institutions cannot be said to fear the Lord. What, then do you expect your children to learn under them?

  • Kristenmomof3

    @hbasedmomof6 - Thank you for the compliment. Yes, I am very comfortable with it. People who don't know that I only have a 10th grade education I don't think would ever guess :)

    I will encourage my children to graduate though if the Lord tarries that long.

    God bless

  • javamommy

    @hbasedmomof6 - exactly what i was thinking too

  • Kristenmomof3

    ok...Xanga was broke there for a little...that was interesting

  • my6kids

    Public School? - proceed w/ caution - there are many schools that teach poorly, that teach what  I would see as objectionable, there are many that have poorly supervised students who are dangerous to your child - whether physically or spiritually. - that said, there are also many who encourage a love of learning, want parent involvement, provide a wide array of educational opportunities, provide great extra enrichment programs, sports, music, drama, etc and are nurturing - you have to look carefully at your district.


    Private School? - can be anything - good or bad. - is it a Christ-centered curriculum- world-view?  is the discipline consistent and have a purpose?  Is it academically on target?  Is it legalistic?  Is it a place where your child is learning things that are consistent with your beliefs?  Are they learning to serve others?
    Home school? (I'm not a great person to comment on this as I have mostly seen the home school failures - the kids who have been home for several years til the parents can't take it any longer then they try to put them in public or Christian school in the correct grade (for the age) say - 6th grade, but when tested, the child is barely on the 4th grade level, can't work w/ a group (everyone is "picking" on him), has a hard time socially. Or the homeschool "graduate' who can't make it at community college. To really homeschool well, it must take an enormous effort - personally, I would not feel adequately prepared to do it properly to give my children all of the experiences, opportunities, and options to make their education complete.  (That's certainly not to say it can't be done! - but you asked for personal opinions!)  I do know a family who successfully home schooled - she was able to find many resources to provide science, math, and latin lessons.  I'm sure my comments sound negative and thats not my intention - just my experiences - if its something that God is leading one to do, then that is what one should do.
    I think like anything else, the decision on education requires a great deal of prayer and study of the various options. - there is no one right answer for everyone. any activity that your child is involved in is greatly enhanced by the parent's involvement as well.
  • MizLaughly

    We have seen excellent results come from all three, and of course some bad results from each.  I look at two of our kids and think...oooh, I'm so glad we school at home.  For various reasons those two would struggle quite a bit at public school.  The other three would do fine in either situation.  I think each child has different needs and strengths/gifts, so each child should be evaluated on those.  We've chosen to school all ours at home, but that does not mean it's the only way.  If you need an example from the Bible, Joseph was schooled at home for the first years, then sent to a 'government' program (smirk).  God still spoke to him, still used him even though his experiences were not what we would choose for our children.  Truly, time spent with family and seeing a consistent witness there, and thorough (not mean) discipline for attitudes, not just actions will take you quite far in parenting.  No matter what school method you choose, avoid over-committing at all costs!  This is an evil plan to separate you from your children...I wonder who thought it up?

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